This Isn’t Working! Book

I signed a book deal with Indigo River Publishing!

We are tentatively scheduling a spring 2022 release date.

I couldn’t be more excited about it.

Having given this a lot of thought, I have realized the time to write this book is right now.

Here’s your sneak preview:

This Isn’t Working! 
Evolving the way we work to decrease stress, anxiety, and depression

Preface

What if you could hit a pause button, pull up, and take an objective look at your life? That’s what many of us did in 2020 – whether we wanted to or not.

If you weren’t an essential worker or on the front lines in some way, you were essentially sent to your room with stay-at-home guidelines to think about what you’d done.

Many people realized what they were doing wasn’t working for them.

The pandemic put a spotlight on busyness, overworking, overconsumption, avoidance, and numbing.

From a place of stillness, and maybe even peace, the way we were working was exposed for what it was: batshit crazy.

It would take a long time to list all the famous people I’ve heard say they will not be recreating their insane travel and speaking schedules going forward.

Connection to self, family, community, hobbies – all of these became increasingly important as ways to stay sane during the insanity of 2020. This is good news.

The not-so-good news is people are really struggling now with mental and physical health issues and working, and I know that if we don’t confront this, and the trauma of the past year, we will have BIG problems.

Which is why I am writing this book.

We shouldn’t be striving to “go back to normal” because if we’re honest, it wasn’t that great, and it wasn’t working for many of us.

We need to EVOLVE.

Are you ready to join the evolution?

Rates of depression are skyrocketing

“Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide,” according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA).

“In an average week in the U.S., 5 million people miss work due to stress and an estimated 4 million work days are lost due to depression.“ (Source: How to Address A Trillion Dollar Issue: 6 Triggers Of Emotional Distress)

In her viral TEDx Houston talk, clinical researcher Dr. Brené Brown said, “We are the most in-debt, obese, addicted, and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history.”

Her declaration has been stuck in my head for years.

Suicide rates in the United States have been climbing for the last thirteen years.
(Source: America’s suicide rate has increased for 13 years in a row)

Clearly, this isn’t working for many – if not most – of us.

I don’t think it’s going to get any better until we dig into what’s making us so miserable.

Having spent years thinking about the intersection of how we work and our mental health, and interviewing people for The Depression Discussions™: The Conversations We Need to Keep Having (Facebook @DepressionDiscussions), I have developed or uncovered strategies for how we can rethink the way we live and work, and start feeling better almost immediately.

Working shouldn’t be making us sick

Last year, three clients called me after leaving the ER because they thought they were having a heart attack.

My dear friend had a stroke from work-related stress – at 31.

Someone else who I have known for 20 years was overworking for more than one year without a real break. They were clearly going to have a heart attack, breakdown, or cancer diagnosis. It ended up being the last one. We’ll see if they get through it.

It was SO CLEAR to me that this was inevitable, that I did a TEDx talk titled Sustaining Personal Energy to Fuel Professional Success. I am not sure they ever watched it.

*sigh*

In my TEDx talk, I shared my moment of almost stroking out in my boss’s doorway on Christmas Eve from the stress of a tight deadline combined with technology failure.

What I didn’t include was the fact that three different doctors had told me I needed to quit that job as soon as possible or I might die. My blood pressure was consistently spiking to dangerous levels, and I generally have low blood pressure.

In fact, at a recent doctor’s visit, the nurse commented on my great blood pressure reading. I said it’s been fine since I quit my job.

Freedom to choose

I can’t tell you how many clients I have had to remind that they get to choose what they do, how they work, where they live, etc. We are lucky to have freedom of choice.

We can make decisions that are right at the time, but at some point they are no longer right for us. In the middle of it, we can forget that we can make a different choice – we can leave that relationship, we can quit that job, we can exit that business, we can sell the too-big house, we can reduce our overhead – we have choices! We have possibilities!

This is what I actually sell in my business, Point A to Point B Transitions Inc. – possibility.

And permission slips.

Like any good coach, I give out permission slips for people to want what they want. And then I support them in mapping a path to get what they want.

Official disclaimer and experience

In no way do I think that my undergraduate degree in Psychology from Vassar College qualifies me to call myself a mental health professional. This is my official disclaimer.

However, I have been managing my own low-level depression and occasional dips into the black pit of despair for my whole life. Through my career transition coaching, I have helped hundreds of professionals work through really sticky personal and professional issues.

In short, I have learned a lot of helpful strategies and techniques, and I hope they will work for you.

How I roll

You’ll find that I am willing to throw myself under the bus if I need to illustrate a difficult issue.

You’ll also find that I take my subject matter very seriously, but I don’t take myself seriously at all.

Finding my amusement with myself, my mistakes, and my life has been critical for my sanity and overall mental health.

This is my personal brand in a nutshell: Appropriately irreverent. Inspiring action.

So, let’s get started.